The boy who almost wasn’t

It’s been about a year since I last updated my blog. Boy, what a year it’s been. It’s been a year of boys.

The boy who almost wasn’t has now firmly settled in and is a fully fledged member of our family.

For those who aren’t aware, I chose to abort my previous pregnancy, after the fetus was diagnosed with Down Syndrome and a heart that was not developing properly. A terrible (but we felt) necessary decision.

But now we have baby James, born almost 11 months after the abortion.  And Ewan is finally starting to love his brother after competing with him for attention for the first few months. At times he even shares his toys with him.

It’s been a year of love and learning.  Busy and stressful at times, but I’ve quickly learnt how to be a better parent.

And I’ve decided its time to become more myself and go on a personal journey of #bodypositivity.

Watch this space for related insights. 😛


Look after yourself – Be body positive

Body positivity teaches us that all bodies are valuable and not only certain ideal types portrayed by the media. It’s important to love yourself and look after your body in a positive way, regardless of your weight, age, race and possible disabilities. This includes eating healthy and doing exercise, but excludes crash diets and excessive gym.

The goal of body positivity is to improve overall health and well-being, which will inspire people to overcome conflicts with their bodies and develop a positive body image so that they can lead happier and more productive lives. The interconnectedness of the physical, psychological and emotional needs of human beings is recognised.

8 steps to a positive Body Image
1. Appreciate your body for all the amazing things it can do like running, dancing, laughing etc.
2. Keep a list of things that you like about yourself that aren’t related to your physical appearance. Read this list often.
3. Realise that beauty is a state of mind.  You are beautiful when you have confidence, even if you don’t look like a model.
4. Surround yourself with positive people who like you for who you are.
5. Ignore your negative inner voice that tells you your body is not acceptable.
6. Wear comfortable clothes that make you feel good about your body.
7. Make time to do something nice for yourself like taking a nap, a bubble bath or find a peaceful place to read outside.
8. Use the time you would have spent worrying about your appearance to help others. This will make you feel better about yourself and you can make a positive change to the world.

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